Why Do We Like Strapon Sex And Fantasize About It?

Why Do We Like Strapon Sex And Fantasize About It?

Strapon sex is viewed as an inconceivably unusual act in the realm of BDSM. Numerous submissive/sissy guys like being 'taken' by a lady wearing a strapon dildo and consider that absolutely exciting. Yet, strapon sex isn't just exciting for men who recognize themselves as submissive or obedient. My accomplice, for instance, is Dominant – yet completely cherishes when I wear my strapon dildo and give him good butt fucking with it. Other guys enjoy having strapon sex without Dominant/Submissive role, they just enjoy the act of strapon pegging.

So, why do some men enjoy strapon pegging?

• The belief that one who is "pushing" it has the power

Almost since ever, the belief was that man is the one who is dominant in sex, and woman is supposed to be submissive, passive. From the anatomy perspective it was obvious that men have the penis to "use it on woman" and ejaculate with, and women have the vagina to for receiving the guys penis. According to that perspective, the act of sex has been seen as males "right" and as the display of the men power over woman, It was considered as something that was "meant by nature" and completely out of any questioning. Even today, in modern times this belief is still widespread in some parts of the globe. This belief does not relate only to sexual power. Women all around the world fight for their recognition and they demand to be considered equal to men in all aspects of life. This struggle has brought to the emerge of may feminist movements thru out the world. 

• Men are considered to be more superior to women because of penis

This will not be a acutely aware perception, however following on from the above level there's nonetheless a widespread notion that males in some way have intrinsic superiority as a result of they've and are capable of wield the penis. Even selecting to not wield it, to respect girls, boundaries, and consent, is seen as a courteous selection, the sort choice, gentlemanly.

Tied into that is males’s higher bodily energy capabilities, once we’re talking typically phrases. Being usually bodily stronger than girls, plus having the potential functionality to penetrate girls with the penis they personal, can result in a acutely aware or unconscious feeling of superiority.

• Woman's vagina has been seen as vulnerable

Whoever is taking the penis throughout intercourse, receiving it into their physique, is usually considered because the extra weak occasion. They’re trusting that the penis-wielder will care about their pleasure in addition to their very own, that they’ll cease thrusting and fucking every time the recipient asks them to, and respect their limits in different methods too comparable to consolation.

Plus, though full and to intercourse ought to be required from all events, it does really feel like in our society we anticipate that almost all of consent offered will probably be from the particular person receiving the phallo-penetrative act – within the case of intercourse the place penis is concerned in any respect, after all.

Receiving penis is seen because the weaker act, compared to penetrating with a penis. This has given rise (!) to loads of phrases which means ‘weakened’ or ‘damaged’ in our tradition, comparable to ‘assuming the place’, ‘get royally fucked’, ‘using my ass’, ‘completely screwed’, ‘fucked over’ and references to not dropping the cleaning soap within the bathe…

• Penis is still men's "thing"

The very considered a girl proudly owning, donning or utilizing a penis is one thing that’s fairly fascinating for lots of males. It’s an alien idea. Penises are for males to have and wield, not girls!

Mixed with the factors already made above, the truth that a girl can put on and use their very own penis is a fairly intoxicating, kinky prospect to the strap-on loving submissive man – thrilling and terrifying suddenly.

• Intercourse utilizing a strap-on is now not real-penis-centric

As a bisexual lady, it has typically occurred to me that a lot of heterosexual intercourse is enormously penis-centric. You get the penis hard... You stimulate the penis... The penis penetrates the vagina…The penis thrusts and thrusts and ejaculates. Finish of intercourse. If you happen to’re having actually uninteresting intercourse with an uncaring individual, at the very least.

It’s relatively refreshing having intercourse which isn’t real-penis centric. Whether or not that’s via lady/lady intercourse the place there’s no penis in any respect concerned/to fret about, or intercourse with a male accomplice which doesn’t completely concentrate on his phallic stimulation wants.

For a lot of, intercourse which doesn’t completely revolve round an actual penis is a novel idea. Strap-on intercourse suits the invoice, removes the notion that ‘real-penis = place of energy’ and presents one thing fully new, mysterious and thrilling.

•  Girl with a much bigger penis is an ego problem

Contemplating the factors raised about conventional views on women and men referring to penis possession and use, the thought and sight of a girl carrying her personal penis and able to use it may be fairly intimidating for a person. Many strap-on harness suitable dildos are available in sizes a lot greater than the everyday actual penis, too – which merely provides to the sensation of vulnerability, concern, apprehension… and general huge kink-appeal.

That is particularly the case when you think about the strain on males to have the largest penis potential, that greater is healthier, that ladies love greater penises and that males with small penises are in some way inferior and mocked due to it. For strap-on loving submissive males, this entire problem to historically held views in society about who wields the penis, who has the facility throughout intercourse and penis dimension – in addition to their very own ego – is the driving pressure behind the fetish.

• Anticipation of brand-new sensations is a huge turn-on

A giant a part of many kinky fantasies is solely that we’ve by no means skilled no matter it might be earlier than. BDSM is commonly turned to with a view to make fantasies actuality as a result of it incorporates many actions that are seen because the ‘subsequent step’ in ’ intercourse. The chance parts concerned in energy change classes and using numerous equipment should not often related to typical intercourse.

It’s the identical with strap-on intercourse. For a lot of males who at the moment or ultimately determine as a strap-on loving submissive, this exercise presents the exhilarating highs of a mixture of maximum psychological and bodily sensations. There’s the problem to the ego we mentioned above, the distinction to historic and unconsciously nonetheless held beliefs about penis possession and use, in addition to the bodily sensations of being penetrated in a extremely delicate area.

• The potential for pain by means of anal intercourse creates the feeling of vulnerability

Talking of the bodily sensations throughout strap-on intercourse, there’s an enormous potential for giant ache. Consenting to another person penetrating your arse with a strap-on harnessed dildo is to belief that individual to think about your consolation, to not put you in an excessive amount of (or any, relying in your limits) ache, to respect your boundaries and your safeword.

This huge quantity of belief could make the strap-on loving submissive really feel at their most weak, usually resulting in sub-space, which is why strap-on intercourse stays an enormous and well-liked fetish within the BDSM scene.

• Anal pleasure remains to be seen as taboo and even completely homosexual by many

Regardless of the refrain of myth-busting communications from intercourse bloggers and the world of intercourse schooling, there’s nonetheless an amazing sense that society views anal intercourse as one thing illicit, soiled, kinky, wicked. If a girl ‘permits’ anal intercourse it makes her extra of a ‘slut’, that she’s ‘up for it’. Not that it’s a typical a part of many ladies’s most well-liked sexual repertoire. If a person enjoys anal pleasure then he’s homosexual, as a result of solely homosexual males prefer it up the arse.

So many submissive males have advised me, when expressing their want for strap-on intercourse, that it might ‘solely be from a girl, although’ and that they’re ‘not into cock’. I hadn’t assumed they had been into actual cock simply because they like the thought or actuality of strap-on intercourse. However for some cause they felt the necessity to reiterate that they’re ‘not homosexual’ simply due to their strap-on intercourse kink.

The presumed taboo nature of ‘backdoor enjoyable’ subsequently lends a fetishistic aspect to strap-on intercourse.

• Utilizing intercourse toys or equipment throughout intercourse is usually seen as kinky

Though in my world, and presumably that of many strapon fetish article readers, utilizing intercourse toys and sexual equipment is a traditional a part of life, there are nonetheless loads of individuals on the market who don’t personal a single one. Sure, actually. And for whom, the concept of introducing a intercourse toy within the bed room could be an enormously kinky transfer.

Think about, then, how far more kinky it will appear to bask in strap-on intercourse.

Even for many who suppose nothing of whipping out a mini vibrator throughout intercourse with their companion, or grabbing the fluffy handcuffs for additional naughtiness, it is a far cry from the lady strapping on a harness with dildo and fucking her companion’s arse with it. You don’t have a tendency to seek out strap-on harnesses within the ‘newbie’s intercourse toys’ part on grownup toy web sites, and the exercise itself is seen as fairly (appropriately) area of interest.